There’s a kind of learning that doesn’t come with a handbook.

It’s not the type you can take a course for, or Google your way through. It’s the kind of learning that feels like it’s unraveling you—bit by bit—until you’re not sure if you’re evolving… or completely falling apart.

I’ve seen it in others. I’ve felt it in myself.

It looks like this:
You spend hours—literal hours—trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior. Their motive. Their intent. You replay conversations. Analyze tones. Reread emails. You try to “rise above,” but deep down, you’re just trying to understand.

You tell yourself not to ask questions because, well… if you do, the answers come back wrapped in gaslight-flavored inspiration. Wisdom. Buzzwords. More fog. Nothing real.

And there it is: frustration.
You’re stuck. Not because you’re not good enough, not because you don’t care—but because the system, the circumstance, the moment you’re in doesn’t give you solid ground to stand on.

Then—like a light flickering in a power outage—hope shows up.
Just enough to keep going. Just enough to try again.
And then the cycle begins once more.

If this sounds familiar, I want you to know something:

You’re not broken.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not alone.

You’re human in a very confusing environment that hasn’t figured out how to talk about this loop yet.

The truth?
Sometimes, the most powerful growth begins in the moments when we feel the most lost.
Sometimes, that ache we feel—that tension—is the stretch required to build something stronger inside us.

And maybe—just maybe—it’s not a breakdown.
Maybe it’s a breakthrough in disguise.

So if you’re out there in the thick of it, riding the cycle of frustration and flickers of hope, keep going.
We’re out here too. Quietly unlearning, learning, and finding each other in the process.

If this cycle feels all too familiar, know this:
You don’t have to navigate it alone.

I’ve been there—in the fog, in the overthinking, in the moments of doubt that somehow coexist with a deep desire to grow. And if you’re in it right now, I want to offer more than words on a screen.

I believe in lifting while climbing.
So if you’re looking for someone to talk to, reflect with, or simply help you name what you’re experiencing—I’m here.

Reach out. Let’s grow through it together.
Sometimes, the strongest leaders are the ones who finally decide to stop going it alone.