Not every person in power is a leader. And not every leader should be in power. There’s a subtle but significant difference between someone who wants to lead others to success—and someone who wants to dominate to stay in control. The line between leadership and control can look blurry, especially in high-pressure environments, but the impact on people is crystal clear. Let’s break it down.

The Core Differences

Leaders:

• Inspire through vision and integrity
• Empower others to grow and take ownership
• Seek collaboration and trust the team’s input
• Celebrate others’ wins as much as their own

Dominators:

• Control through fear or micromanagement
• Hoard power and decision-making
• View people as pawns to move, not partners to grow
• Feel threatened by others’ strengths

Red Flags That You’re Being Dominated, Not Led

• You second-guess yourself constantly
• Every idea needs their stamp of approval—even the small stuff
• They use “urgency” as an excuse to override processes or opinions
• You’re praised only when you agree
• Growth opportunities are dangled, not delivered

Why This Matters

A dominating environment crushes morale, creativity, and retention. People don’t leave companies—they leave people who dominate instead of lead. The irony? The best leaders gain influence by letting go of control.

The workplace doesn’t need more dominators in suits. It needs bold, emotionally intelligent leaders who don’t just seek power—they earn trust.

If you’re a leader—ask yourself: Am I guiding or gripping?
If you’re an employee—ask yourself: Am I growing or just surviving?

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