Interviewing with Actual Humans: A Survival Guide in the Age of Bots

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Witten By Cari Borden

Let’s be honest: getting past ATS filters, AI screeners, and bot recruiters can feel like running a digital obstacle course. But once you land in front of a human, that’s where the real work, and the real opportunity, begins.

This is your no-fluff, human-first interview guide: how to research, what red flags to catch early, and the questions that separate candidates who want a job from those who want the right fit.

1) Do Recon Like a Pro (Before They Ever See Your Face)

  • Company DNA: Read the last 6–12 months of blog posts, press releases, and LinkedIn updates. Note what they celebrate (profits only? people? customers?).
  • Leadership tone: Scan execs’ LinkedIn posts. Are they all megaphone, no listening? Do they talk people development or just “hustle harder”?
  • Employee commentary: Cross-check reviews on Glassdoor/Indeed/Blind. Ignore outliers; look for patterns—themes in workload, leadership, turnover.
  • Social channels: Are values lived consistently, or just polished PR? Is community engagement real, or performative?
  • Role clarity: Identify 3–5 measurable outcomes the role should drive in the first 90–180 days. Bring these into the conversation.

2) Red Flags to Catch Before You Say Yes

  • Vibes over values: “We’re a family” + no clarity on pay, promotion, or boundaries.
  • Evergreen hiring: Same role posted for months = churn or chaos.
  • Hero culture: Glorifying late nights, “urgency,” or “rockstars.” Translation: chronic under-resourcing.
  • Managers as scorekeepers, not coaches: No mention of feedback cadence, growth paths, or learning budget.
  • DEI theater: Lots of statements, zero metrics or accountability.

3) Your Stories > Their Script

Humans remember stories, not bullet points.

  • Prepare 3 tight STAR stories (Situation, Task, Action, Result) that show:
    1. turning ambiguity into progress,
    2. influencing across functions,
    3. learning fast after a miss.
  • Tag each story to a business outcome (revenue, cost, quality, risk, CX).
  • Practice out loud. Polished, not robotic.

4) Questions That Signal You’re a Peer (Not a Passenger)

Use these to evaluate fit, and to show you think like a partner:

  • “What outcomes define success in the first 90 days—and what’s made that hard historically?”
  • “How does this team give and receive feedback? What does a great 1:1 look like here?”
  • “What’s the growth path from this role? Examples from the last year?”
  • “Where has the strategy not gone to plan? What did you learn and change?”
  • “How do you resource learning—budget, time, and expectations?”

5) Read the Room (and Yourself)

  • Mirror their language (brief with brief, structured with structured) without shape-shifting your values.
  • Clock their listening: Do they interrupt, dodge compensation questions, or sell culture without examples?
  • Name the elephant—politely: “I’m hearing urgency around X with limited Y. How have you handled that trade-off before?”

6) Close Strong—Without Sounding Desperate

  • Summarize your fit in one sentence: “Sounds like you need A, B, and C. I’ve delivered those by doing X, Y, Z.”
  • Ask for the path: “What’s the next step and timeline?”
  • Send a follow-up note with a 3-bullet recap of their priorities + one resource you’d use on week one.

Quick Checklist (copy for your notes)

  • ☐ Reviewed company/leadership content
  • ☐ Scanned employee chatter for patterns
  • ☐ Defined 3–5 role outcomes
  • ☐ Prepped 3 STAR stories tied to metrics
  • ☐ Drafted 5 “peer-level” questions
  • ☐ Planned your 1-sentence close + follow-up

Final Thought

Bots can’t measure chemistry. Algorithms don’t build trust. When you finally get in front of a human, preparation isn’t a nice-to-have, it’s your advantage.

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