The Leadership Fog: Why Everyone’s Tired, Wired, and Unsure Who’s Driving

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Written by Cari Borden

A guide to navigating hypervigilance, burnout, and psychological safety in AI-driven workplaces

Introduction: Welcome to the Fog

If you’ve felt exhausted, overstimulated, mentally scattered, and spiritually done, but somehow still showing up every day with your badge and your best intentions, congrats. You’re officially living in The Leadership Fog.

It’s that hazy mental state where:

  • Everyone is “on” all the time.
  • No one is sure what decision belonged to whom.
  • Leaders feel the pressure to be perfect and omniscient.
  • Employees feel the pressure to perform like AI… only kinder, faster, and without glitches.
  • And the entire organization is moving, but nobody can tell if it’s forward or just in circles.

Hypervigilance is the new normal. Burnout is the new badge of honor. And psychological safety often feels like a luxury benefit rather than a workplace standard.

But here’s the truth:
You are not imagining it. You are not weak for feeling it. You are not alone in it.

Consider this your fog light.


Section 1: The Fog Has a Cause—And It’s Not You

Most people think burnout is just “too much work.” But that’s not the full story.

Burnout today comes from:

1. Constant Uncertainty

Restructures. AI disruption. Hiring freezes. Shifting priorities. “We’ll circle back.”
Your nervous system is doing the math even when you aren’t.

2. The Pressure to Be Human AND Machine

You must innovate like a strategist, respond like a chatbot, empathize like a therapist, coach like a leader, and still hit KPIs like an algorithm.
That’s not normal.
That’s not sustainable.
That’s not even humane.

3. Leaders Who Are Running on Empty

The fog doesn’t just hover over frontline employees; leaders are often the most lost in it.

When leaders are exhausted, overly cautious, or hyper-focused on putting out fires, the team loses its compass. Not because the leader lacks talent, but because the conditions lack clarity.

4. A Culture Built on “Do More,” Not “Do Together”

When collaboration is replaced with transaction, trust erodes.
And when trust erodes, hypervigilance skyrockets.


Section 2: What Leadership Looks Like in the Fog

In fog, even confident leaders begin to question:

  • “Should I speak up?”
  • “Is this my decision?”
  • “Will this upset someone?”
  • “Is AI going to do this task better than me?”
  • “Am I still valuable in this role?”

This creates a dangerous cycle:

  1. Leaders hesitate
  2. Teams sense the hesitation
  3. Everyone tightens up
  4. Hypervigilance spreads
  5. Performance drops
  6. More fog

Psychological safety becomes the first casualty.
Burnout becomes the second.
Clarity becomes a rumor.


Section 3: Clearing the Fog — A Guide for Anyone Who Feels Stuck

This isn’t your typical leadership “tips and tricks” section.
This is your oxygen mask.

1. Call the Fog What It Is

When you name it, you neutralize it.

Say it clearly:

  • “This isn’t confusion—it’s organizational fog.”
  • “This isn’t incompetence—it’s unclear expectations.”
  • “This isn’t personal—it’s the environment.”

Language matters. It gives your brain permission to stop blaming itself.

2. Anchor Yourself in What You Can Control

Not everything.
Not most things.
Just the right things.

Try these anchors:

  • Your boundaries
  • Your communication
  • Your emotional tempo
  • How you respond to ambiguity
  • Asking clarifying questions without apology

3. Regulate Before You Lead

A dysregulated leader creates a dysregulated culture, period.

Try:

  • 90-second emotional resets
  • “Name it to tame it” (label the emotion)
  • Taking a 3-minute pause before responding
  • Adjusting your internal pace before adjusting others’

4. Replace Hypervigilance With Micro-Clarity

Instead of:

“What if everything goes wrong?”

Try:

“What exactly do we need to decide today?”

Small clarity prevents big anxiety.

5. Encourage ‘Safe Truths’ on Your Team

Psychological safety doesn’t come from slogans. It comes from moments.

Try this script:

“What’s one thing we can say here that we don’t usually say out loud?”

You’ll be shocked at what people finally exhale.

6. Redefine Productivity in an AI World

The future of work is not about speed, it’s about discernment.

Productivity is:

  • Making the right decisions
  • With the right people
  • At the right time
  • With the least emotional cost

That’s leadership, not output.


Section 4: If You See Yourself in This Fog—Here’s Your Validation

Let’s speak directly to the person reading this with tired eyes, a strong heart, and a brain carrying 32 browser tabs of responsibilities:

✔ You’re not behind.
✔ You’re not failing.
✔ You haven’t lost your drive; you’ve been navigating a storm with no map.
✔ You’re not “too sensitive”, you’re human in a system built for machines.
✔ And you’re not alone, so many are living in the fog, silently trying to hold it together.

If nobody has told you this lately:
You’re doing better than you think.


Section 5: A Leadership Reframe for a Foggy World

AI isn’t the enemy. Burnout isn’t a character flaw. Hypervigilance isn’t a personality defect.

The real challenge is this:
We’re trying to lead in an era where change is constant, clarity is scarce, and expectations are unrealistic.

But here’s the reframe:
Leadership today isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about helping people breathe through the uncertainty long enough to find them together.

Clarity doesn’t always come from the top.
Sometimes you become the person who turns on the fog lights for others.

If you’re reading this, you’re already doing it.


Closing: Forward Through the Fog

The fog will lift, not all at once, but gradually, every time a leader chooses:

  • honesty over polish
  • clarity over speed
  • connection over control
  • humanity over perfection

You don’t have to be the hero.
You don’t have to be the machine.
You just have to be the human who keeps choosing the light.

And that is leadership at its highest level.

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